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Gender Pronouns

What are gender pronouns? 

Pronouns are a set of words used in the English language that identify a person or something a person possesses, such as he/him/his, she/her/hers, they/them/their, etc. 

Why do pronouns matter? 

Pronouns are used in every day language and many of us do not spend too much time thinking about them. For people who use pronouns other than those assigned at birth such as transgender, gender non-conforming, and nonbinary people, pronouns mean a lot. Referring to someone with the wrong gender pronoun is one way to misgender someone and can trigger dysphoria ( a feeling that one's gender identity has been invalidated resulting with discomfort in one's body and mind). Using a person's correct gender pronouns shows support and respect. 

Using Pronouns

Can I update my pronouns in Campus Connection?

Yes! You can update your pronouns, gender, and sexual orientation in Campus Connection. These are opt-in options and are not required by the University. 

  • Log in to Campus Connection
  • Click Profile in the main menu
  • Under Personal Details, click on the Biographic tab 
  • Select your gender identity, pronouns, and sexual orientation from a drop-down menu. 

Can update my pronouns in Starfish?

Yes! You can update your pronouns in Starfish under profile settings.

  • Log in to Starfish
  • click Edit Profile
  • Scroll down to Contact information
  • Updated pronouns under section for Pronouns in Your Student Profile

What if I mess up someone's pronouns?

Apologize, correct yourself, and make an effort to do better next time. Do not make a bid deal about the mistake, that can make the situation worse for the person who has been misgendered. 

I have heard people use multiple pronouns?

Correct, some people might use multiple pronouns such as "he/she/they" or "she and they". Pronouns vary by the individual.

How do I use pronouns in my e-mail?

The University has set guidelines on including gender pronouns as an option in e-mail signatures. Be sure to utilize the brand standard. 

Can I put pronouns on my UND business card and name badge?

Yes! The University has guidelines on including gender pronouns on business cards and name badges. 

How do you use inclusive language?

Examples include changing gendered language to non-gendered language. Gendered language is Ladies and gentlemen, men and women, guys and gals. Non-gendered language is Folks, y'all (you all), everyone, guests, anyone, team, students, faculty, staff.

When should I ask for pronouns?

It can be a good idea to ask for pronouns in a group facilitation during an introduction. It can, however, be unsafe for someone to disclose their gender identity, so discretion should be used. If someone does not want to provide their pronouns, that should be respected. You can also ask for pronouns on name badges at conferences, group socials and gatherings. The best way to introduce pronoun use is to introduce yourself with your gender pronouns. For example: "Hello my name is Jeff, and I use he/him pronouns." This will let people know that you are pronoun conscious. 

Practice with Pronouns

Gender Pronoun Guide 

Subject Pronouns Object Pronouns Possessive Pronouns Reflexive Pronoun Example
he him

his himself

He is speaking
I listen to him
That book is his

she her hers

herself

She is speaking
I listen to her
That book is hers

they them theirs

themself or themselves 

They are speaking
I listen to them
That book is theirs

per per pers

perself

Per is speaking
I listen to per
That book is pers

ze with zir
(pronounced "zee" and "zeer")

Zir  Zirs

zirself 

Ze is speaking
I listen to zir
That book is zirs

ze with hir
(pronounced "zee" and "heer")

hir hirs

hirself

Ze is speaking
I listen to hir
That book is hirs

xe
(pronounced "ze")

xem xyr/xyrs

xyrself

Xe is talking
I listen to xem
That book is xry/xyrs

ey
(pronounced "ay")

em eir/eirs

emself 

Ey is talking
I listen to em
That book is eir/eirs

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